Hair Positivity Starts With You
- kamogelo93
- 2 days ago
- 2 min read
We talk a lot about self-love, but when it comes to our hair, that love often comes with conditions. We love our hair when it’s manipulated and call it ‘preference’ but the truth is, if you prefer your hair when it is furthest from its natural state, there is a lot of love lacking.
Because love just is. No condition.
For many of us, hair has always been dictated by trends & social acceptance while tied to culture and identity. Because of years of messaging that told us what “good hair” should look like — and most of it didn’t look like ours, unlearning that is part of the journey.
Hair positivity isn’t about pretending every day is a good hair day. It’s about grace — choosing not to talk down to your hair when it doesn’t cooperate, and remembering that shrinkage, frizz, or uneven coils don’t mean your hair is unhealthy or unworthy.
It’s also about agency. You get to decide how to wear your hair. Whether you rock an afro, braids, a silk press, or a relaxer, confidence comes from ownership — not from fitting a single definition of beauty.
So let’s start small.
Speak kindly about your hair, even on its off days. You are always listening to yourself and the words you use to describe yourself, begin to define you at some point. Learn what your hair needs instead of forcing what doesn’t work. Edges won’t lay? Okay, maybe let’s gently brush them back. It’s important that you stop comparing your hair to someone else’s — no two textures thrive the same way. If you are not eating the same foods, drinking the same amount of water, sleeping the same number of hours and do not have the same genes, why would you expect to have the same hair?
Positivity is a practice. Kindness is a choice and the more you honour your hair with patience and kindness, the more it reflects that energy back — in strength, in growth, in confidence.
Healthy hair starts with love. Every time you massage in your favourite oil, detangle gently, or give your locs the rest it needs, you’re doing more than maintaining it — you’re affirming it.
Hair positivity starts with you because your hair doesn’t need to be “fixed.” It just needs to be understood, loved, and cared for — by you, first.
Love MPL,Your Hair Doctor
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