I want a partner that treats me just as well as I treat my hair or better. These days I’ve been building a deeper relationship with my hair and we’ve been the healthiest we’ve ever been since my big chop in 2011. I’m a lot more intentional with my hair these days. There are hair dates just about every week where we do hair masks and hot oil treatments. Our most intimate moments are when I run my fingers through the root to the ends with moisturiser to prepare her for double strand twists. My protective styles, whether its braids or head wraps, make my hair feel safe in ways that builds our trust and strengthens our bond.
When my hair isn’t feeling loved she doesn’t hesitate to communicate that with me. I can be neglectful at times and within those moments she becomes dry and sometimes brittle which makes her split her ends to get my attention. Through those tough times, I remain humble and hold myself accountable. My relationship with my hair in many ways has strengthened the relationship I have with my mental, spiritual, emotional and physical self. When you are pouring true and unconditional love into yourself it’s a direct reflection of not only how you perceive yourself, but also its holds as a mirror to the type of partner you want to attract. Teaching myself how to take care of my hair has been such a beautiful and equally challenging process that taught me to be gentle, adventurous and patient. There is so much to learn when nurturing your hair and I believe it stands as a direct display to others in how you want to be treated.