A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life - Coco Chanel
I have heard and seen this quote countless times and I absolutely love it. In fact, it always comes to mind when I feel like I want to cut my hair. It makes me feel like I am about to make my life better!
The big chop is very symbolic for women. It always happens at a time when we are ready to let go of something and welcome something new. A relationship, a job, a lifestyle, a receding hairline…whatever!
So why would we ever need permission to do that? We wouldn’t right?
It becomes tricky though when you are in a relationship and you and your partner kind of run big decisions past each other, and cutting all or most of your hair off certainly is one of those. It is a big decision because as much as it is about you, it also affects others.
It is not only your appearance that changes when your cut your hair I believe, it is also your outlook and approach to some things. Your behaviour changes, some things that you used to do, you will no longer do.
Think about it, if you have the kind of partner who enjoys basing your scalp with MPL hair food and you tell them that that’s not going to happen anymore because you're going bald, it can get real sis!
My girls and I have talked before about how we have had moments when we wanted to cut our hair and after remotely mentioning it to our partners, it was received with a
resounding “NO BABY!”
As if I was asking! I was just letting you know. This dude right?! <— conversation with yourself after letting him know ha!
That kind of reaction can make the decision a little more difficult to follow through with. Because our partners opinion matters, and we care about how they feel about the things we do. We are after all always asking them to talk about their feelings, much to their dismay, so we cannot disregard it when they express their dislike or like for a decision we are about to make. Because it is not always a negative response that we will get.
However, back to the point about permission. We never need it to make that particular decision. It is more about consulting with your partner before making the decision. It is about simply regarding and acknowledging your partners possible feelings about the decision. Because whatever you decide, at the end of the day, if you matter to them, they will accept it. Whether they like it or not. Also, YOUR HAIR WILL GROW BACK!
Any partner who will leave you because of a big chop is probably not worth keeping anyway sis.
So do you boo! BUT let your boo know too, okay!